Empowering Youth.

[spiegol]

I don't know for sure, but I think that one of my girlfriends is pregnant. She has been going out with an old boyfriend of mine, which was no problem. I just don't think I still can be her friend. Just thinking about them in that way just makes me feel so strange. I think it may be a little too much for me to handle right now. I am already finding myself distances myself from her and I don't even know if it's true or not.

I know I must sound selfish, because if it is true she must be going through a whole lot right now. I haven't gotten the nerve to ask her if it's true or not, but some how it think it is.

[prettyangelina]

That's a tough one. But, I think you still should be her friend because if it's true about her she will need all of the support she can get. If you are truly over the guy, I don't see why you can't still be friends.

[mystery Girl]

How good of a friend were you to her before you found out about this? The rumor may not be true. Sometimes at first we react to gossip in negative a negative way. I would just wait and see. I think you still should be her friend. Unless like one on the other poster's said, you still may have feelings for this guy and that is the reason you are reacting the way you are.

[LittleBee]

The first thing I think of is....how is your friend and her boyfriend's relationship. Does he seem supportive of her, etc.? I think that no matter what, if she is your friend, you should support her. You don't have to like the fact that they are "intimate" but you need to realize that she is not trying to hurt you. I think that if you are really good friends you should discreetly talk to her and tell herr what you heard and then ask if it is true. It is better if you do this while no one else can overhear. Let her know you want to know because if it is untrue she will help discredit the gossipers and if it is true, you want to support her. That is what a true friend would do for their friends. Support no matter what. However, if you still have feeling for the guy...is he really worth losing a great friend??
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[Avian]

The truth is that she is going to need a real friend in this situation. It also doesn't sound like she was intimate with your boyfriend to spite you. If they really like each other, than you should be accepting of it.

[MoMo]

Yes you should still be her friend. I don't see why you shouldn't. She will need you through these difficult times. I would not abandoned her in her time of need.